Why is this world called Maya – Illusion? Because most of what you see has nothing to do with the truth. For instance, think about all the times you’ve been shamed for not being good enough. 

Do you realise that when someone tells you that you aren’t good enough, they actually want you remain never-good-enough? That’s the whole game here – think about it – When someone complains that you aren’t good enough, if you change that one trait, then the complaining should stop immediately. But it doesn’t. It just moves on to something else. 

I’ve encountered both kinds of people. Those who support real change hold your hand, love you even though you’re flawed, and help you up. Those who just want a person they can shame and feel good about themselves will point out your flaws as if something’s wrong with you. Shame you, compare you, reject you, abandon you. 

Having said that, there’s no point in judging such a person – this is all they know. The more you try to fight this, the more you engage with it, the more you energise and re-create it. Also be aware that the world is a reflection – if this is happening to you, it means you are doing it to others. 

If you’d like to actually do something to help yourself, deepen your witnessing of the situation, witness what they are projecting on to you, become aware that they are sucking your energy by shaming you, and that you’re never going to be good enough for them, become aware of your own feelings in this matter, and if you cannot simply witness it non-judgmentally, then take help with healing it.