I once saw a study which looked at what made relationships last, and what enabled couples to remain happy together. They found that contrary to popular belief that a happy couple will have a, let’s say, high bullshit tolerance for each other, actually they had very low thresholds. They’d bring up and resolve the littlest of things, so things would never get big, in the first place. People who put up with each other’s shit separated over time because eventually the mountains got too big to move.

In another story, I remember someone telling me how a Mayor in some US city decide to increase the penalties on minor crime, and that resulted in a huge reduction of major crime – because people didn’t feel emboldened and encouraged to pursue crime after they had to pay a heavy price for the ‘little things that didn’t matter’. 

It is the little things that count, in life. When we say ‘yes’ to the little flaws, which we often tend to, we allow things to get bigger and more painful. 

As people who work on themselves, it is easy to get lost in the big stuff, but truth is, the big stuff is reflected in the little things. So just heal one little thing at a time, and eventually the big stuff falls away on its own. 

Have a beautiful weekend full of beautiful little things

🙂